During the course of a persons dating life, they will more than likely take an ex back at least once at some point. Many people do this more than once. They have a weak moment in their mind as they miss their ex, and they justify it to themselves that taking back their ex would be a good idea. Usually their emotion in that moment is compromising their judgement, and when that happens, it is expected that a person will make decisions they may regret soon after.
Given that taking your ex back is so common, I thought I would write a post showing a few things that you should be warned of, before you go and take them back. Sometimes it works out well, but on most occasions it doesn’t pan out quite so well. So here they come, 3 common problems with taking back an ex.
Problem 1. The issues the caused the last break up could easily cause another one
After you separate from your ex, usually the things that went wrong last time, will not have been sorted out or made better, before you broke up. Most break ups are ugly and brutal, and the problems that caused them are usually still lingering when the 2 people meet up post break up.
My point is, you should be wary that the problems that happened before could easily reoccur, and so this is why before taking your ex back, you should have a plan in your mind of how you can find solutions to the issues that happened before in the relationship. Because without a pre-planned solution for those things, that you put into practice after you get back together, it will probably just end in heartbreak all over again, and then you would be left searching the internet for something like “how do I get my ex back?”
Finding solutions to the problems that still exist between you is beyond the topic of this article, but you just need to be aware that if you will take your ex back, you should have a plan on how you can make it work after you’ve got them back.
Problem 2. Your ex may decide they’ve tried enough to make it work with you already and that you should both move on
If the relationship had problems in it for quite some time, then your ex may get back with you and decide shortly after that they don’t want to try with you anymore. They may feel that they already gave it all they have got, and they may want to start fresh by re-entering the dating market. This is always possible when dealing with an ex, and you should be wary that it may happen. It is part of the risk of taking back an ex.
Problem 3. It may be impossible for your ex to fully rediscover the attraction they felt for you
This problem becomes a particular issue in situations where you are taking back an ex who has disrespected you in a big way. If they have shown disrespect and STILL you want to be with them, then they will struggle to respect you at all, because they would think to themselves, who in their right mind would accept being treated like that? And if they cannot respect you, then it is more or less impossible for them to feel attracted to you. Of course when the attraction fails to reappear, then the next break up is never far away after that.
Taking an ex back is a serious thing and you should know in your mind the reasons why it has a chance of working out next time, before you go ahead and actually take them back. I hope that my article here has made a point of that and forced you to think intelligently about your situation.